You’re Not All That…

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I find the time to write another entry again… Yay!

Well do you guys use twitter? Or Facebook? Or BlackBerry Messenger (BBM)?

Have you ever notice tweets,  or Facebook status updates, or BBM personal statuses that goes something like this :

“F*** you bitch, you’re not all that pretty after all!”

or like this :

“Hey prick, you ain’t so good looking after all!”

Well…, you know that bitter messages which I personally think is a bit pathetic.  Why I say it’s pathetic? Because I know, in most cases that kind of tweets/statuses are not ‘the complete and honest version’ of what the writer had in mind. If you’re wondering what ‘the complete and honest version’ looks like, it probably goes like this :

“F*** you bitch, you’re not all that pretty after all…yet I like you and hoped you didn’t turn me down”

or this :

“Hey prick, you ain’t so good looking after all…but how I hoped you’d prefer me over that big-b***ed sl*t”

Got my point?

The written messages may say “You’re not all that…”  but the implied messages you deliver is that the person is not all that attractive/charming/good looking/smart/(any ‘positive’ adjective) but the truth is “You ARE all that attracted or charmed or whatever so that you just have to make such a big deal about it”. If you’re prone to sent those kind of messages, my advice is that, if you don’t like someone or you just found out that someone “is just not worth it” – stop giving them so much credit. Remember that the tweets/statuses/PMs you write will be there for all your followers/contacts/friends to see – along wit the implied messages – do you really want to give the one you refer as “prick: or “bitch” all that buzz and credit? Think Again.

So, Are You Bored?

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“I’m bored”
Hearing that line used to annoy me. I used to think “wow, this person must be very dynamic. He/she just can’t stand the dullness of this situation” or “Wow, what kind of creative peoples is this person usually hang out with? It seems that to him/her we just look so mediocre and boring”

And it used to make me uncomfortable with myself…
I mean if he/she is bored and yet we’re not — does it mean I can just “accept” the dullness around us — does it mean that I indeed am dull to “just be okay” with the dullness?
Well…have you ever get that feeling too?

That’s until I see things from different perspective.
Maybe the one that is really boring is not me but the person who declared that he/she is bored. Why? Look at things this way : the fact that I’m not bored is maybe because I can actually find something I can do or I can turn my thought towards to cope with the situation, no matter how monotonous or how dull things are. And yet, all that the “bored person” can do is declaring that he/she is bored — So not creative. It turned out that it’s the “bored person” oneself who is boring – having not enough creativity to amuse oneself out of the dullness.

So with all that said, I suggest you guys when encountering a person who turn to you and say lazily “I’m bored” look back and say :
“Really? Is that the best you got? Well, maybe it’s because YOU are boring.”
At least maybe they will find that ‘trying to figure out what on earth could you mean with that remarks’ is not quite so boring.

Empathy : How It Can Negates Annoyance

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Berhubung ‘cerita’ kali ini (menurut  saya) lebih relevan dengan kondisi lingkungan di Indonesia, khusunya daerah Jabodetabek, maka entry kali ini ditulis dalam bahasa Indonesia.

Suatu kali Chris dan Duchess of Clutter (quite obvious, ini adalah nama yg disamarkan. Untuk kedepannya akan disingkat sebagai DoC) sedang menikmati makan malam di sebuah restoran yang lokasinya cuku ‘ terbuka’. Saat lagi seru-serunya makan, datanglah seorang pengamen menyanyikan suatu lagu yang sepertinya hasil karangan sendiri dengan lirik yang cukup menarik namun sayangnya tidak diiringi dengan susunan nada yang catchy. Suara si pengamen yang menyanyikannya pun sayangnya tidak banyak membatu untuk mebuatnya terdengar lebih baik.

DoC : “Nah paling sebel nih kalo makan di tempat kaya’ gini. Banyak yang ngamen lah, minta-minta lah…”

Chris : “Hahaha, bagus donk. Di restoran besar aja belom tentu ada live music. Kalo ada pun biasanya cuma weekend, nah ini malem Rabu gini ada live music.”

DoC : “Hahaha, dasar. Tapi beneran deh ini tuh ganggu banget orang lagi makan. Jadi ga nyaman.”

Chris : “Yaudah kalo gitu kasih aja recehan berapa lah gitu, biasanya kalo abis dikasih dia ga akan lama-lama koq. Kecuali emang demen nyanyi berharap ada produser rekaman yang mau ngorbit hahaha.”

DoC : “Yah ribet, lagi makan, tangan kotor susah nyari-nyari recehan lagi di dompet.”

Chris : “Ya udah kalo gitu diemin aja, lanjutn makan aja.”

DoC : “Iya. Yah gini nih ga enaknya makan di tempat begini. Banyak pengamen, mereka tuh bikin ga nyaman yang makan aja. Dikasih satu ntar dateng lag ynag laen. Huh!”

Chris : “Hahaha, don’t be so rude. Gini deh mikirnya. Kalo kamu yang cuma duduk disini sambil makan aja sambil denger dia ngamen merasa ga nyaman…, bayangin deh gimana ga nyaman-nya da yang harus ngamen.”

DoC : “Nah kalo gitu ga usah ngamen aja dia harusnya.”

Chris : *slip up a little smile* “Mungkin dia juga kalo bisa sebenernya ga mau ngamen begini. Tapi bairpun begitu dia tetap ngamen. jadi artinya apa tuh?”

DoC : “Apa?”

Chris : “Artinya whether dia ngamen atau ga, buat kita dan dia sama-sama soal MAKAN. Bedanya adalah kalo buat kita whether dia ngamen atau ga adalah soal kita bakal akan sedikit terganggu waktu MAKAN atau ga. Sedangkan buat dia, whether dia ngamen atau ga, adalah soal dia bakal punya uang buat MAKAN atau ga.”

DoC : “………..”

Chris : “Don’t give me that weird stare, carry on with your dinner.”

The Storm’s Pickup Line…

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One time, the storm got a crush on the green pasture. The storm’s well aware of his erratic characteristic and how that may cause hesitation on the green pasture’s end to let the storm approach further. Yet, to change the way he is — is not something the storm think as a wise choice — and faking it is even worse.

So here’s what the storm come up with : “Well my dear Green Pasture…, you well know the way I am, thus if you hang with me I can’t guarantee that you won’t get wet or even ended up in a mess. But this I assure you — the spectacle of the lightning bolt, the adrenaline rush caused the roaring thunder, and the ‘dance’ we have when I come carrying the wind unto you will make it all worthwhile — or even more. So, what do you say?”

On Second Thought…

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“I could stay awake…just to hear you breathing… Watch you smile while you were sleeping, while you far away dreaming….” (Aerosmith – Don’t Wanna Miss A Thing)

…Err…on second thought…nah! I won’t stay awake just hearing you breathing — it’ll be quite boring I’ll eventually fell asleep so…rather than that, can we just make out instead?

#failed romantic

Funny Thing About Adult Is… (In A Child’s View)

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…They think they know what’s best for you and others in everything. How to talk, how to dress, how to behave, etc.
But once in a while, you should see them when they’re going to meet their future in laws — suddenly they have no clue about what to say, what to wear, or even how to behave — for themselves.

Now how can you believe someone that don’t even know what to say, what to wear, and how to behave to tell you how you should talk, dress, and behave?

See? No wonder a lot of children won’t listen to adult’s advice nowadays

(Not) About A Girl

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Chris : Hey pal, have you ever in the condition where you suddenly realize that you love something that you never thought you love before?
Friend :…,yeah I know what you mean. I’ve been there before too.
Chris : Quite a feeling huh?
Friend : I’ll say. So…, who’s this girl that makes you experience that “feeling”?
Chris : huh? Girl? What girl are we talking about?
Friend : C’mon, don’t play dumb with me. Tell me about this girl that you never thought you love and you suddenly realize that you do. Is she your childhood friend or si she…
Chris : *laugh*
Friend : What are you laughing at?
Chris : You, silly! You think it’s all about a girl?
Friend : Well of course, it’s…
Chris : Meat buns!
Friend : What?
Chris : Meat buns, I’m talking about meat buns. I always thought that my favorite food is Pizza. But just a couple of days ago I realized that the ones I can’t resist are nice warm meat balls. So in a way…, I love meat buns, but I never realied it before.
Friend : @#*!?!!#*!!

Well folks, the moral of the story is : JUMPING on the trampoline is fun, Bungee JUMPING is fun too, but JUMPING into conclusion and proven wrong — not so fun

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